The Election Changes Everything (Most of All You)

Day 5 since Election Day. The body shaking lessens, but does not stop. There are moments each day when I can put out of my mind what just happened, but not most.

I shed tears at various moments during my son’s Bar Mitzvah yesterday, but only half of them were in reverence and awe of him and the beautiful tradition. The other half of those tears flowed because I could not reconcile the standard prayers (hope, love, peace, helping the sick, stopping oppression, embracing differences) with what our country just did: elect Donald Trump as our future president of the United States.

Every parent knows that parenting means growing your child from both the inside (good food, good morals, good information) and the outside (good role models, safe home/schools/community, and healthy environment). So every parental instinct is offended at a Trump election, which has already uncorked the stopper of hatred in otherwise safe and stable neighborhoods. On Halloween a swastika was displayed in our neighborhood. Post election someone displayed a “white kids only” sign on a bathroom door in a nearby town. And I live in a state that voted for Hillary. Bigotry. It is hard to put that genie back in the bottle, and even harder when its instigator and champion was just voted into office.

Trump has also announced his desire to decrease funding for environmental regulation, which signals more difficulty to come in raising our children, and our children’s children,  in healthy environments.

As to providing good role models for our children…Trump has repeatedly and unabashedly lied, cheated, bullied, sexually harassed, and otherwise dangerously misled the American people (weakening the Obama Presidency with the racially provocative birther lie for years, calling Hillary Clinton a crook without evidence and despite a lack of indictment or lawsuit, while he has an unbelieveable amount of litigation pending against him, declaring that American elections are rigged and mainstream media biased).

Had Trump been a major league baseball player, merely one instance of these many transgressions would have caused him suspension, a fine, or perhaps cost his job. But our country just rewarded him with the presidency. Had he been Hillary Clinton we would have hung her by now in torchlight, after the public dunking to conclude the Republican-Led Witch Hunt, (coming up short, thus leading to request for emails) the state-sponsored political persecution of Hillary Clinton in which the media was complicit and on which Trump capitalized.

Some people say we should just wait and see, he might moderate his approach in office. I am here to tell you he has already changed everything!

The rules of American politics have just changed. And Americans are the losers. People have always tolerated a certain amount of factual sidestepping in politics, but they don’t like a lot of it, and they don’t appreciate bold face lies. Like when Bill Clinton said “there is no sexual relationship” (a lie to protect his own skin prompted by a non-meritorious personal lawsuit against him). Like when George W. Bush concocted and convinced us of the lie that there was evidence of weapons of mass destruction in Iraq (a lie which eroded our moral authority in the world, propelled us into a decade long war, lost thousands of American lives, caused a hundred thousand other deaths and injuries in the Muslim world thus spawning stronger enemies in the shape of ISIS/ISIL/IS, removed a check on Iranian threat to the region, and increased our national debt to levels that cripple our economic growth now and in the future).  Americans don’t like this kind of thing once we realize we have been boldly lied to. It is part of why voters did not want to support a mainstream Republican candidate or Bill Clinton’s wife (guilt by association).

In this political contest, Trump, who was by far (very far) the more egregious liar, wins the day. Trump, who was a master manipulator clothed as a whiny school boy, won the day, rather than Hillary Clinton who preserved a modicum of professional and political decency in her response to his unprecedented behavior. But it was too late. He, and the Republican army before him, had already effectively penned her in. Who would believe her when she said he was lying, since she had already been brandished the liar? Because she had been tarnished as untrustworthy, she could not talk herself out of it, could not talk her way back into our good graces. Who would have believed mainstream media when he has labeled them as liars too?

Republicans have perfected the art of the Big Lie (telling the very opposite of the truth loudly and frequently, or accusing their opponent of their own crimes in order to inoculate themselves) and it paid off Big Time. And there is a word for this: Propaganda. And it leads to a democracy who no longer has correct information to help them vote for what they intend.

The change in rules for political contests are tantamount to when the rules of warfare itself changed from organized combat to jungle warfare. Very messy. Very hard to predict harm and control consequences. And because they have proved beneficial to Trump and the Republicans for these many years now…they are not going away. They have double downed on them.

You know this intuitively, that everything changed. It is why your stomach ached on November 9. It is why you  still shake a little bit sometimes. Your mind cannot fully believe it yet, but your spirit and body knows you–and everything you stand for, everything you thought our great country stood for–were just assaulted.

You also know in your heart that it means you have to stand up and do something about it. You are no longer a mere spectator in this democracy while working hard to feed and clothe  your family.  The political issues are no longer abstract, distant, or even complex. Trump made this personal. He attacked you, your wife, your neighbors, your employees, and possibly your honored ancestors, by his hate speeches. And he was elected for it, or despite it. This is personal. And no one talks to us like that and gets aways with it. You understand?

Wishing it away is not sufficient. These people play a long game.

Today my family will sit down to form a plan, just like you might form a household evacuation plan, a natural disaster plan, a college savings plan, or plan who will take care of a sick loved one. Our plan today will start with how to respond to bigotry wherever and whenever we encounter it, whether it be school, work , government officials, or media. We will build our plans from there to include more proactive steps to change political leadership in Congress and the White House, to limit their scope of power and influence.

I invite you to tell me what your plans are. And as the days and months proceed, I will post here any ideas we all have that help us to each take steps. Each of us can only take small steps while we work hard on other things. So think of it as one small step for man, but one giant step for mankind. We can do this together. I will post something every week if not more frequently. Let’s see what we can do.

 

 

Post-Election Fallout: Days 1 through 4

Day 1 post-election was probably the closest we will come to the Zombie Apocalypse: commuters with no smiles, coworkers dazed and confused, many outright weeping.

Day 2 was not much better and it was still difficult to get email responses from coworkers (were they still crying in bathrooms or nursing headaches and stomach aches?)

On Day 3 the nightmares started. The cockroach-like creatures were invading the tissues of our hearts, leaving a shiny tasty residue that would attract more creatures to lay their eggs and spawn millions more.

Promising note, however: I am talking to people, sales clerks, etc., and they want to talk about politics. They want to know more. Their eyes open like saucers when I share some basic facts that they were too busy to hear or learn before the election. I offer to stop talking and move along and they say things like, “it’s okay, I’ve got all day” or “”no worries, my coworker will handle the line”. We hard-working Americans are not always tuned in. We need to be. Now people want to be. I need to blog for real now, I guess.

By Day 4, I woke with a start when I realized that Trump was really elected and this was not just a dream. So today I actually wanted to stay in my dreams. I have a Bar Mitzvah to celebrate. I can’t think about Trump today. Tomorrow we will regroup and form a plan.

 

 

Can Michael Moore be the Great Uniter?!

Out of the mouths of babes (or teenagers, same thing)…

My family just finished watching “Michael Moore in Trumpland“, a one-season, one episode iTunes TV event that my 15-year old calls Moore’s “best movie”. For context, my son has only seen “Where to Invade Next” (arguably Moore’s best film considering it is laced with optimism and maturity not often seen in his previous films) and “Fahrenheit 911” (which makes me cringe in too many places though it fairly shows Bush’s delayed response to a national emergency and reveals the Bush family relationship with Osama Bin Laden’s family).

What my movie critic son had to say about Michael Moore and his Trumpland  film/episode: “He somehow managed to humanize Trump voters and still make me want to vote for Hillary more.”

And my son’s response to a 1998 video clip of Donald Trump saying positive things about the Clintons in Moore’s Trumpland: “He (Trump) was kind of adorable really”.

What cracks me up about his insights is that they came just an hour or so after our dinner conversation wherein he basically accepted without question the media swirl implicating Hillary (or at least her campaigners) for instigating riots at Trump rallies based on WikiLeaks: “Isn’t it kind of interesting,” he said, “how there is so much bad stuff happening around her and coming up in WikiLeaks?” My reply was probably inadequate, too much to say in one coherent thought (other than “political persecution”). I said, “Well let’s compare…you are concerned that people in or near the Hillary campaign  may have encouraged people to stir the pot at Trump rallies.  Meanwhile Trump himself has directly and on more than one occasion personally made a public appeal to his NRA gun supporters, “2nd Amendment people” to stop her, as well as inviting Russia to try to hack her (an offence which the CIA said would cause Trump and anyone else to be arrested next time they said it). I also suggested to my boys that it is amazing how so few emails, far less than 1 percent, have come into question and how lukewarm they are anyway. Which only proves to me that no systemic corruption exists, and may even be less of a dirty politics-as-usual environment. In fact, leaked emails show how Hillary tempered her staff members’ desires for more partisan or polarizing approaches.

The response from my boys was, “why do you always defend her?” and I replied,”I wasn’t defending her, I was trying to help you with critical thinking.” But it doesn’t matter what I say unless I say it on the internet (thus this blog) or use video like Michael Moore!

Truthfully, I recommend watching Moore’s video. It is comical but poetically appealing, inspiring and maybe even redeeming and healing. Is it possible that the partisan filmmaker is on his way to healing the nation as “uniter, not a divider”?

 

 

 

Do You Want Change in Washington?

A woman I admire just told me her ingenius method of early voting. Disgusted by how women have been treated in this election…leading off with the policial persecution of Hillary Clinton (if she had been a Rebuplican man during a Republican-controlled Congress, she would not be continually investigated for doing her job. Certainly Colin Powell was not investigated for using personal email to communicate), and capped off by the way Trump supporters shrug off his hateful and degrading comments about women… she decided that she does indeed want change in Washington.

Her solution? She voted for every female candidate on the ballot. This offended my son who argues that it is dangerous to vote blindly. Yes, indeed, however many people are blindly following Trump for the mere want of change in Washington. If everyone voted in women, up and down the ballot on November 8th, we would definitely see a change in Washington, and it would not be half as reckless as voting for Trump.

Twins, Terror and the World Series

This week I was in fear for my sister’s life as she underwent labor and delivery of twins under life-threatening medical complications. After a troubling couple of days, the twin babies were healthy, mom finally pulled through, and I headed to the airport with the added baggage of emotional exhaustion, mental distraction, and muscle tension to rival a piano in my backpack.

Just when I thought nothing could snap me out of the emotional and physical processing of the previous days, not even the airport massage I adventured in the hallway when they announced my flight was delayed, I was jolted into a different state of being by fear of terrorist attack. It started just as all passengers were buckled up and the plane was readying to disengage from the gangway. The man sitting next to me in camo gear snapped a pic, selfie-style but grim-faced, of the airport generators outside the airport window, then abruptly left his seat in favor of one further back, and then, while I consoled myself that he was still on board and thus not likely to have planted a bomb, he just as abruptly walked up the aisle and slipped off the plane.

My nerves were already shot from the week, so after crouching down to check under the seats and while the flight attendants began to check overhead bins for what he might have left behind, I swiftly departed the plane in favor of the next flight to my destination. For some passengers this might not have been an easy decision. But I had momentary mental clarity of an accute kind. Apparently the simple and immediate fear of a terrorist act crowds out other, more complex or ambiguous emotions that are gripping and almost unresolvable. My sister’s dilemmas, my own labor flashbacks, my aching back, all were forgotten in my haste for the exit.

I suspect that fear of terrorism in our country does the same thing for a lot of people; it provides a comforting clarity of purpose that clears our mind of more complex daily troubles.  Gridlock in Washington, like pregnancy complications,  is hard to understand, let alone resolve. But pure fear that can be attributed to a single cause…this is like meditation, “ohm”.  Mindfulness is all the rage now in business circles (I actually heard this former prisoner/monk speak)  I wonder if certain kinds of fear can mimic the “be here now” effect of mindfulness. Fear is both toxic and intoxicating.  Many leaders have leveraged fear as far as it would take them. But ultimately fear’s  hold, or even its simple clarion call, is shortlived.

My underlying tension resurfaced before I crossed the threshold of my home. And there I found more tension as my family was rivetted to the 7th game of the World Series. This tension was different though from airport secuirty or terrorism threat. Here was fear of loss, yes, but also hope, prayer and expectation of something wonderful. With a newfound relaxation and simple clarity of mind, somehow I knew the Cubs would win, just as the twins were born safe and sound. In the end, the power of fear is not greater than the triumph of hope.

 

Marvel’s Civil War and U.S. Politics

I was lambasted by my kids for going to see the critically unacclaimed Batman vs. Superman this year. Didn’t I know it only received 27% on Rotten Tomatoes? Well I was able to enjoy it by mentally correcting for the editor’s mistakes in a couple places; a dream scene that should have been more clearly a dream, a sequence of scenes that ought to have been rearranged, and a character whose vendetta ought to have been more feelingly explained. But one thing I couldn’t ignore was the silliness of their misunderstanding and miscommunication, before fighting broke out. Marvel’s Captain America: Civil War was hardly much better in this regard.

Silly plots. Unrealistic scenarios. Or, are they? Did these comic movie writers predict the 2016 presidential election?

In the reality show we know as America’s UnCivil War: Trump vs Clinton we see the same level of misunderstanding as Americns rely on different sets of facts (and disagree about which issues are most important) to form their opinions. Similarly to comicbook universes, our enemies watch with baited breath hoping we will destroy ourselves from the inside out with hatred and mistrust based on the seeds they have cleverly planted.

Meanwhile, just yesterday Donald Trump visited Gettysburg and pundits considered the civil war about to ensue within the Republican Party. I worry about greater than that. When a candidate states that he may not accept the results of the election, that he will “keep us in suspense” about it, we have to wonder about how much he is bolstering his angry-branded-followers to misbehave, revolt and worse on the heels of election day. Clinton’s debate response is correct: “Horrifying”.

 

 

 

 

 

 

The President’s Most Powerful Weapons: Words

In the second Presidential debate,  Donald Trump excused his tape-recorded conversation boasting of sexual aggression toward women as “locker room talk”, and stated that his “words” were nothing compared with Bill Clinton’s action. Since then many women have come forward to share about his acts against them, more than mere words.

But let’s focus just on the words for a moment and consider if lewd talk of this nature is okay because it is just talk. If we should dimsiss Trump’s lewd comments as just words, well then, the debate is just words, so why did they continue talking after that. Sexual harasmment laws? Just words. Heck, even the Constituion and the Bible are just words. In fact, why lambast Clinton about her lost personal emails; they were just words too.

In fact, a president’s first and most powerful weapon is words. Winning hearts and minds starts with words, followed shortly by deeds.

I have been very impressed with Hillary Clinton’s words in this presidential contest. In the first debate she said words matter and asked world leaders to hear her now, that our country would stand by its word. Thank you Hillary for deescalating Donald’s reckless rhetoric right there on the debate floor.

 

 

 

Seriously, Can the Internet Raise My Kids?

So I may have been half joking about my desire to drift into auto-pilot parenting in a previous post. And yet, a whole generation of children were raised on  Sesame Street by moms and caregivers who sat them down in front of the TV, to everyone’s advantage. Who am I to call that wrong?

So let’s embrace what the internet can do for us parents…even as we scratch our heads over internet safety with our kids.

  • When kids persistently ask you, why is the sun yellow? Send them to VSauce (our favorite!), or Minute Earth.
  • When kids get too hyper, and sending them outside to run it off isn’t an option, have them visit Deepak Chopra (even for a good giggle if they can’t take it seriously), or turn on the Calm app.
  • They can even have the internet read to them if they say they are too tired to read the homework texts.
  • No need to squabble about age appropriateness of movies when you can see common sense movie reviews from parents.

If it takes a village to raise a child, then the internet is fair game.

What are your favorite sites?

 

Missing the Point about Trump, Supervillains and the American Way

Any superhero movie junky can tell you that movie superheros need well developed supervillains to pit against. This makes for gripping  stories and, more importantly, stark contrast to help set off virtuous values of the good guys who are fighting for things like…truth, justice and the American way.

National politics do not always offer a stark contrast in good or evil. When bills are titled something so positively good, such as “No Child Left Behind Act” (who can disagree with that premise?), it is hard to argue about the details of policy within the bill which help some people while hurting others, and may ultimately leave whole communities behind. Or the recent override of President Obama’s veto against allowing Americans to sue Saudi Arabia in relation to 9/11. What sounds good may actually have undesired consequences. Politics are muddy. Political work is hard work that does not easily fit into a soundbite, a 2-hour feature film, or even a one-year election cycle.

For several decades Democrats have raised alarms and fought against the issues plaguing positive progress in our country which are now so clearly voiced in the Trump candidacy for president: unchecked greed, racism, sexism, xenophobism, etc. Trump has crystalized, in the form of a single perosnality, a host of issues and ills. For Democrats, he is their well defined supervillain: mean, greedy, and yet captivatingly caustic, a bully so confident in his power that he states explicitly those things that lie underneath the surface of Republican rhetoric.

Well, Democrats, this is your moment to have national attention on these issues. Because  as soon as Trump fades from public life, it may be the likes of Mike Pence, his running mate, who take us back to a path of complacency by his pretty face, calm persona, how smoothly he lies and how he deflects answering questions, as we saw in “undecided’s” response to his performance in the vice-presidential debate. Pence is simply not a Supervillain who can colorfully help us see in clear relief the need to fight for truth, justice and the American way, because it requires extra steps on our part to fact check and actually pay attention to the details of what he is saying over time. And the other likely candidates for Supervillain, such as Fox News’ Murdoch, the Koch Brothers and others may require too much exposition to fit into the soundbites and You Tube videos Americans squeeze into their busy lives and limited attention.